February 9, 2013

• The Lord Of the flies house taken down

  We have a house on the end of our street we called the Lord Of the Flies house. The neglect that went on for those teen boys was horrific to many tales to tell but no state or local authority seemed to care for years.  The family had taken in at least 4 other teen boy cousins to get money from the state. Yes even I reported them in but yesterday was a different kind of day. Apparently the oldest son was a drug dealer and was involved in a sting operation. They arrested not only the boy but the mother as well. The Police raided the home, sheds and woods outside their house. I don't know what happened but my friend who lived beside them said that they told the mother she is guilty just because she did nothing to help those kids.

  I really felt sad to see that. I don't know why but I prayed for her and her son. The boy teen was a kid I have known since he was 7. He played at our house with his cousins and we had them over quite a few times for birthday parties and fun stuff. Hubby played street hockey with them and tried to be a good example. I knew they had been getting beatings at home when they let things slip and it hurt me to know. I tried to talk to them about it when I had a chance but they just shrugged it off. The younger cousin I comforted a lot but he wouldn't talk to me about it. He just would cry. They came over to play until they started to steal from us. It got pretty bad with them too because they saw it as rejection from a mother figure and acted angry with me for not letting them in anymore. I confronted them on their stealing but they just denied. I was told by them how they wished I was their mom so many times it grieved me not to let them in but I had to protect my own children. I told them if they ever need help I am here for them. They just stopped coming over.

  A few years ago I complained about kids harassing our house at night to deal drugs in the alley, it was them. My Husband tried to talk to the parents but they just said "kids will be kids."  Eventually we had to call police since they stood outside my house and threatened me. I had told them to leave off my yard when they had started a fight. We stopped talking to them at that point. A very defensive wall came up between our family and theirs as they stopped even saying hello on the street when we saw them. They knew we had called the police. I think it was the start of worse things to come.

  I am praying for them because I know those boys were good kids at one time. They cared about animals and liked innocent fun but we really saw a change in them over the years and I could not tell you why other than the Parents didn't care what they did. OH and they were abused so badly. I don't think anyone cared in the state agency since it seemed they had social workers visit. People learn to lie and cover up easily. That is why abuse is so hard to deal with in families. If no outside help comes in nothing can be done unless they change. I am hoping this might be a change for the better for those kids but I wonder.

   Pray for them. I know change is really a hard thing for people who are abused who become Abusive. Yes there is no excuse but I have such pity for them. Why I don't know call it a mothers heart. It looks like life is only going to get worse for the oldest son. It breaks my heart. I so had hoped and prayed he was doing Ok. I hope he would get good help and possibly change his ways. It just seemed like he never had a chance to start with.

   

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