October 30, 2012
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My Narsistic Sandy posts
So yesterday I posted a lot on Facebook about being afraid and wanting prayers about Hurricane Sandy. A step-relative's girlfriend posted this morning on how some FB posters during the storm were all about themselves and Narcissistic. I took that to be me as well as anyone else who put up updates about themselves and the storm in their area.
It made me kind of angry this morning. Yesterday I was really scared and so were a lot of other people. The weather channels were telling us that the storms worst part was coming and what we were getting was nothing compared to what was hitting us hard. I am so glad they were wrong for us. But not everyone was so fortunate. If she was still living here I am sure she too would have had cause for concern.
She said she could tell who was truly altruistic and narcissistic on how people posted.
We, in the past, have not seen eye to eye. Also she doesn't have a lot of family and friend on FB so I kind of took it as a jab in my direction. She is a Atheist and is one of those really outspoken ones against people of faith. She lied about me to her boyfriend who is my husbands Step-brother. Said told him that I hated him for not being Christian. I never said anything or hinted that. In fact I never even witnessed to them. When we spoke it was only about camping or fun stuff. I thought we got along ok. I never said an ill word about him but wondered once if he had a drinking problem a few years ago because he didn't show up for a family Christmas party with him being too drunk. She was crying in the kitchen wondering why and I mentioned it. I should have never said anything but since then she has hated me. She gave me dagger looks. Step-brother wrote me a long email asking why I hated him then told me he knew it was because he found out I was Christian and Christian people hate Atheists. HUH? I told him no and he continued to pummel me with insults. WHACK job!
Trust me I didn't say much else to them since except she attacked an post of mine once about violence in Spokane WA. She went way off the handle.
Was she is really angry, jealous, and vengeful because I have a lot of friends and family who commented on my posts saying they cared? I was touched by it all. Plus not everyone I know is a Christian and said they care about me. I know it isn't just an Atheistic thing but I do wonder why the hate? It kind of threw me off that she posted that early this morning. It might not have anything to do with me I know and I know I should be not concerned about her bad attitude but puzzles about people always get me going. I just have this desire to understand her. Why I guess it's because I feel pity for her and her narrow view of the world at large. I am still a person with fears and doubts even if I have Faith outside myself. I do think all the prayers helped us. We stayed dry and it was a miracle, to me,we didn't lose power. I was so glad but now I am sad that their are some who cannot rejoice in the fact when the things in life that actually go well for others.
I guess I could say that to myself too.
My Question is this, is it Narcissistic to post your fears and wanting prayer? I didn't think so but I wonder about if she isn't narcissistic to say she can tell who a person is by they way they post? I mean how can you judge narcissism in another person and accuse them of being Narcissistic without being one yourself?
Hmmm
Maybe I am too judgmental or overly sensitive. I just don't know.
Comments (12)
not narcissistic at all omg. i would be updating my fears a lot which will be in varying degrees haha
because posting about them might actually help you feel you have some control no?
and knowing there are those who care helps some. we all need to be reassured.
this person is really petty
*hug* relatives and facebook
always such a bad combo...
I'm glad you're safe and that things werem't so bad for you in your area.
@xXxlovelylollipop - Thank you for all the prayers.
@bonmots - it did help so much, Thank you
glade you are safe
@dmcx2010 - Thank you xanga buddy.
I must have missed that post (no xanga yesterday) and basically I would like to remind you to thank G-d for the blessing of not being hit bad.
Giving thanks for a swell answer to your prayer is more required than to fuss on someone who is calling you narcistic. However you have sort of fairly explained how it did deter you a bit. The Devil's work is to deter us from doing good works.
Still blood supposedly is thicker than water and you should pray that your relationship gets repaired. Sometimes a second party is able to achieve repairing it and basically it is not an easy task for just one person.
Even from the news we were getting around the world indicted that people in Sandy's path should have been scared. I think you kept it real and I sure do not think you are a narcissist. Glad you weathered the storm all right.
I don't think there is anything wrong with asking for prayers or posting your fears. I try to understand why people do or say the things that they do, but sometimes I just don't understand it at all.
Glad you are safe. It didn't hit Pennsylvania as bad as it was supposed to and I am very thankful for that.
@PPhilip - I am happy as a lark but the reason I blog is to understand people. This baffled me and I want to understand it. Why I even mentioned it and asked my questions.
I posted happy pulses that I was fine.
@risingsunacademy - Thank you I think about how happy I was for you and your escape of the the tsunami/earthquake a few years ago. She has been silent so far and it just makes me happy I have good friends and family. I do pray for her.
@Shining_Garnet - I am glad you all are fine. I heard so much of PA was out of power. I want to understand other obstinate people more but I wonder if that is one of life's mysteries.