November 12, 2012
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trying
I really do try not to get too offended by people but when they go out of their way to put you down, it kind of sticks in my craw.
My blog is to help me, like therapy, so excuse the complaining.
Why is it so hard for people to take someones word for something? People who feel a need to bombard with their own reasoning without knowing the full situation?
I get so perturbed.
Here is a example. I have been trying to get my husband to post more on Facebook to keep in touch better with his family. He told me awhile back he wanted to leave facebook and I begged him to stay on. I am rethinking my decision. It seems if hubby is happy the misery of his family comes over to dump their unhappiness on him. It is a purely toxic relationship and I am so sorry I pushed him to expose himself once again. I do everyday and push forward so I am not so sure if it is more my reaction to them being mean to my man or if it is me feeling overly protective of him since he has been so abused as a child by these families. I say families since he has more than one.
It is like that family is so fake. They act so uppity and cannot relate kindly to one another. They gossips and act so mean I often feel caught in the middle of disputes sometimes. I have a problem with anyone I keep it to myself why can they not? I guess that is why we rarely see them since getting together is a full emotional armor event!
I want to just B*tch some of them out once and for all but I don't out of respect for my husband. I am so nice compared to my true inner feelings and I feel like I have adopted this Fakeness.
Ok what do you think maybe I just need to learn to play the games? Or am I overly sensitive?
WOW This is why I am so nice to my Family since I deal with so much nasty on the one side. Maybe God is teaching me a lesson? I hope to learn my lesson soon so I can move on away from this tempest of emotional overload.
YAY The Holidays are coming and I have so much in-law family to deal with in the next few months. It makes me so sad I hardly have any of my family left around.
Comments (9)
Happy families are all alike; every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.Leo Tolstoy
Hmm, I wonder if a family trying to win you over has an ulterior motive? True caring and sharing people sometimes gets scarce because people do take advantage of kindness.
It would be nice to be able to buy kindness from people but it is priceless.
The big picture is that if they are not lynching your husband, then there is a chance for reconcilliation and getting back to family values and harmony.
Yes there are different levels of hostility, sometimes you have to get your husband to explain why certain relatives hate more than others.
My boyfriend's family is the same way. They have treated him so badly all his life and even tried to keep us apart. Now he only talks to them about once a month, but if he bothers with them on a regular basis, they start treating him badly again.
My family is like that as well and you can't trust them, which I think is sad. When someone has toxic family, I think the best thing to do is just not bother with them. Or if you bother with them, do so only once in a while. I don't think it is mean to do this.
I believe the Great Spirit wants us to love everyone, even mean people. But, I don't think the Great Spirit expects us to put up with being treated badly.
@Shining_Garnet - Thank you! Great advice.
@PPhilip - I hope so and that is why I keep giving them chances but its hard to watch someone get hurt over and over again and not say anything to them. It is not my battle I guess.
@we_deny_everything - Love that quote! So true.
No you are not oversensitive. They are rotton people and if he wants to leave face book let him.
I have left face book since my grandkiddos are no longer on there and I simply do nto have enough time with TDs care to be there.
I think it depends on how important these people are in your families life and do you really need them there?
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Follow your heart.
I guess every family has its share of the good and the bad.
It does hurt when your kind words are not listened or even being rejected.
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