December 22, 2012
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One more thing before the big day…
Tomorrow we have a family gathering in PA with my inlaws. Hubbies Mom is came up yesterday from GA to stay with her brother. Notice she doesn’t bother to come to our house. OY! SO we have to travel up to see her.
I really should not complain. I am glad she isn’t going to drop in since every time she comes to my house I suffer so many insults on my house and how we live. We just are not rich enough for her tastes. Why she stays with her brother. He has a nice house and lives better off than we do. But don’t let that fool you. Uncle is the sweetest man I know.
I am so nervous about family gathering I think I need Paxil. I take Anti-anxiety meds as it is but I went to the Pharmacy to find the Doctor didn’t call in the prescript even though I had it renewed in the fall. ARGH it is always something. I am not ashamed to say I need them drugs since without them I would be a nervous wreak and in tears the whole holiday season.
When I say I have a mean Mother-in-law it sounds cliche but honestly my other sister-in-laws are glad I am coming. They email me to make sure. That makes me feel better. LOL I take the brunt of the abuse though because I am a punching bag of sorts since I don’t fight back much. They do and vehemently. MIL says it is because I like the feeling of being a victim. Or so she told everyone else. I never talk about her to the others, REALLY! It would only come back to haunt me later. I only crab about it here. My husband gets told that stuff. They love to talk about me so much I wonder if my side show needs to charge admission. I think it is because I am married to the oldest sometimes and have been around the longest of the “outsiders,” (family married to the siblings.)
What is weird is I really try not to piss anyone off. I exist so here I am just a whole reason to be hating. LOL What is strange we share so much in common, my M-I-L and I. Really and we see eye to eye politically so that is not a point of contention like it is with the rest of the family on BOTH sides.
No I think it is because we are poor and that for some reason is my fault her son didn’t marry up.Honestly I am living better than I did growing up. We were desperately poor when I was a teen. No one helped us except the community we lived in and even then we still went without a lot. I feel rich and that is all that matters to me. My kids do not need more things and we have a decent life. We do not live off the state or anything and I did work parts of my marriage outside the home. It never made sense to me to pay someone to watch my child when my whole pay check practically went to just that.
Ok I am blowing steam on here and feel so much better, putting things in perspective and putting on emotional armour.
Wish me luck or say a prayer for me.
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Good luck. I’m glad my family is dead. dealing with my in laws is enough=)
prayers and hugsare sent your way. I hope your family visit ends up being pleasant rather than stressful. You are blessed and appreciate that which you have. That is so much more important than monetary goods. Though things are nice to have, having love and appreciation is worth so much more. It’s a shame others in your family can’t recognize that, and are rude b/c of it. Perhaps they don’t understand and are jealous that you can still be happy, whereas they don’t know how to without things, and putting someone else down. God will bless you for your attitude. May you find some joy in this holiday season. Safe travels.
@ascultafili - sorry to hear that about your family though. Hope you have a happy holidays!
@Crystalinne - you might be right. Thank you!
If I had to deal with your mother-in-law, I’m afraid it wouldn’t be pretty. But, that’s just me…I hope you survive and get some good cheer during the holidays. Try ignoring her…walking away is a good practice..let her insult the empty space you leave. Anyway, try and have a good family visit and enjoy your holidays.
Prayers for you.
I don’t like family get togethers. My family aren’t exactly the nicest people. I mean, they’ll be nice to your face, but behind your back, they will rip you apart.
My half sister was actually having a Christmas party today. My parents were going to go, but my dad is sick so they didn’t. Before he got sick though and was planning on going, my dad wanted me and my boyfriend to go along. I decided not to go, so I told him no and he wasn’t happy at all. I got a very hateful look for saying no lol
I don’t like going to Christmas parties my siblings have because I am very uncomfortable there. I don’t feel welcomed and I’m not. They don’t like me, or my mom. We’re only invited because my dad, their dad, is invited.
Well, I hope your family gathering goes well and that you have fun while you are in PA. Just to warn you, it is pretty cold here right now.
Blessings to you!
Sending prayers, hugs and luck.